Staff from our adoption agency went to Korea last month; yesterday, we got pictures!
Unfortunately, our Benji-boy had some anxiety. Most of the pictures look sorta like this. Well, this is the worst one. But he was obviously quite upset.
We’ve been told before that he has stranger anxiety, especially with Caucasians. (Oh boy.) I wonder what set him off on this day? Maybe he was tired, or not feeling well, to begin with. It looks like he did settle down enough to look at the pictures we sent to him.
These pictures make me wonder – again – how our attachment process will go. He’s obviously very attached to his foster mom (whose face I kept out of these pictures just for her privacy, btw). We know he has stranger anxiety. So, I wonder, will he attach to us pretty easily but continue to be anxious about the world at large? Of course, I don’t want him to be anxious about anything, but I guess I’d rather deal with him being nervous around others than deal with him refusing to connect with us. We’ve never dealt with this before; neither of the girls did that screaming-their-lungs-out-when-we-left-them thing. We’ve always had it easy in that area. It may be that we’re about to get majorly schooled in how to deal with stranger anxiety! Thoughts, opinions, conjecture, and anecdotes are invited, whether you’ve adopted or not.
Our agency will send us video soon, which may give us a better idea of what was going on.
Only a few more months! After Christmas, I’ll start buying little boy clothes and sheets and toys!